ASK YOURSELF IF THE PROBLEM IS SOLVABLE

Worrying and problem solving are two very different things.

Problem solving involves evaluating a situation, coming up with concrete steps for dealing with it, and then putting the plan into action.

Worrying, on the other hand, rarely leads to solutions. No matter how much time you spend dwelling on worst-case scenarios, you are no more prepared to deal with them should they actually happen.

It may be helpful to distinguish between solvable and unsolvable worries

If a worry pops into your head, start by asking yourself whether the problem is something you can actually solve. The following questions may help:

Is the problem something you are currently facing, rather than an imaginary

what-if?

If the problem is an imaginary what-if, how likely is it to happen? Is your

concern realistic?

Can you do something about the problem or prepare for it, or is it out of your

control?

Productive, solvable worries are those you can take action on right away (for example,

if you’re worried about your finances, you could call your creditors to see about

flexible payment options). Unproductive, unsolvable worries are those for which there

is no corresponding action (“What if I am here for a longer time?” or “What if my child gets into an accident?”).

If the worry is solvable, start brainstorming. After you have evaluated your options, make

a plan of action.